I was off to work on Monday and what a reality shock that was! The previous week our big boy went back to school and little Lollie went to preschool for the first time. He’s really struggling to adapt and fighting with all his might against the new routine. I know everyone tells you that he’s okay and that he’ll be fine, but he’s still my little baby. My heart is breaking when the teacher tells me that he didn’t participate in any class activities today, but she’s confident that tomorrow will be better. But being a very confident mom, walking and talking with a mission and passion (I mean he’s my second child and I’m suppose the pass this test with a distinction …) I held my pose very well and agreed and pointed out some things that she might want to try with him and walked out, head held high and with my confident mission and passion walk.
Closing the gate behind me I felt as if I could just sit there and cry with my little Lollie. We build all these barriers around us and nobody can penetrate them and then trying to keep my pose at a preschool, I all of a sudden felt like giving up everything just to be able to keep him in my arms every morning instead of dropping him off at a preschool.
Fortunately reality kicked in very quickly when I looked at my credit card balance … So, everything is back to normal!
My first post for 2008 is about foreplay - sex, what a wonderful way to start our new year!
After quite a funny discussion with friends of ours (after lots of red wine…) we came to the subject of foreplay. The word sex is very often used in our household and it’s not seen as the typical “holy cow”. We joke around, promising one another sex if you need something from the other person etc.
I want to dedicate this post to all the men reading it. PLEASE NOTE - foreplay doesn’t start 5 minutes before you’re having sex. We need time!! I tried to explain this to hubby so many times, but to no avail. Foreplay starts the moment you open your eyes - feel free to jump into the shower with her (please brush your teeth before the time and no sex yet, this is foreplay), when she’s preparing breakfast, gently stroke her back or a kiss in her neck will get her attention. Send her an sms or e-mail telling her that you love her and that you appreciate her. When she gets home from work, surprise her with a home cooked meal (on second thought, take aways will also do, if she has to do the cleaning, it will break her spirit!). Then start preparing her bath, please don’t forget the candles and the bath oil (or whatever she prefers). And then I’ll leave it in your capable hands… Make her feel special and she’ll be putty in your hands. That’s all - we’re not asking that much.
Please don’t be monotonous and do the same thing over and over, use your imagination! Happy foreplay in 2008!!
