Foreplay in 2008
My first post for 2008 is about foreplay - sex, what a wonderful way to start our new year!
After quite a funny discussion with friends of ours (after lots of red wine…) we came to the subject of foreplay. The word sex is very often used in our household and it’s not seen as the typical “holy cow”. We joke around, promising one another sex if you need something from the other person etc.
I want to dedicate this post to all the men reading it. PLEASE NOTE - foreplay doesn’t start 5 minutes before you’re having sex. We need time!! I tried to explain this to hubby so many times, but to no avail. Foreplay starts the moment you open your eyes - feel free to jump into the shower with her (please brush your teeth before the time and no sex yet, this is foreplay), when she’s preparing breakfast, gently stroke her back or a kiss in her neck will get her attention. Send her an sms or e-mail telling her that you love her and that you appreciate her. When she gets home from work, surprise her with a home cooked meal (on second thought, take aways will also do, if she has to do the cleaning, it will break her spirit!). Then start preparing her bath, please don’t forget the candles and the bath oil (or whatever she prefers). And then I’ll leave it in your capable hands… Make her feel special and she’ll be putty in your hands. That’s all - we’re not asking that much.
Please don’t be monotonous and do the same thing over and over, use your imagination! Happy foreplay in 2008!!
Marissa Theunissen responded on 20 Jan 2008 at 8:36 pm #
The Men are not responding B? You would think this is the subject they would be enjoying ..sex
You are absolutely right! Men are like light switches easily put on and off we on the other hand is like my slow cooker you have to put it on early, let it simmer for the whole day to get the temperature just right!
We have sex not just with our bodies but also with our emotions and thoughts. If they dont remind us during the day to actually think about sex out kid -work thoughts would definately intrude and by the time the kids are in bed, laptops batt is flat …ours are too
Kissing is also totally underated..
Belinda responded on 23 Jan 2008 at 7:27 pm #
Thanks for the response!! I’m VERY surprised that the men are not responding. Maybe we’ve painfully hit home … my husband didn’t even reply…….